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Top Tips for Party Conundrums

So, you have planned your kid’s party, more than covered the basic party planning, and have all details set and situated. No more worries, right? Often planning is a cinch because although it takes time and focus, once you have ideas for your party, it is a matter of focusing on organizing the party and managing your own time.

This is easy in comparison to dealing with the conundrums that arise when others become involved, and this includes anyone from the birthday child to her birthday guests, to your family and friends, to extended relations and beyond. People often add a measure of stress to these gatherings that are often difficult to navigate. Keep these top tips in mind when navigating these party conundrums.

  1. Birthday child’s behavior at parties. Sometimes parties can feel overwhelming to kids. Help him prepare for the parties by role-playing. As an example, role play the opening the gifts scene. If your child is the guest, practice being attentive while the gifts are being opened and remaining calm when his gift is unwrapped. If he is the birthday child, practice how to open gifts properly saying thank you after each present is unwrapped.
  2. In order to avoid kids fighting at the party table to see who sits next to the birthday child, make place cards and have them set at the kids’ places so everyone can focus on where they should be seated instead. Make sure to ask your birthday child who he wants seated next to him.
  3. Check potential allergies with parents as they RSVP and make a plan to be inclusive of children who have allergies. Make sure to serve the kids with allergies at the same time as the entire group so they do not feel left out.
  4. Make sure to write a Party End time on your party invitations to ensure that party guests will be picked up on time. However, don’t have any pressing plans directly after your child’s party in case there are parents late to pick up their kids.
  5. When hosting slumber parties, do not request that guests have a particular toy to bring with them to play with at your party. Instead, request that they bring the basics, and take care of providing the entertainment.
  6. If some of your guests have been sick directly before your party, make sure to be honest with the guests’ parents and request that the kids not come due to potentially infecting others. Make sure to mention getting together after the party when the kids are completely better.
  7. Tips for handling a rude family member:
    • Do not avoid inviting the person, but plan on how to handle the person. 
    • Would you be able to have an honest conversation expressing your concerns with this person? If so, be positive and state your expectations clearly. 
    • If not, is there someone else at the party who gets along well with this person and can spend time with the person during the party. 
    • In order to avoid rude behavior, provide the person with a job to do at the party, which may reduce the chance of rudeness. 
    • Let go and let be. More than likely, others will understand this is the person’s problem and not yours. If this person is a family member, others will not be surprised.
  8. Steps to reducing stress planning a first birthday:
    • Who will you be inviting to the party? If it is mainly adults, you don’t need to do too much, but serve food, drinks, cake, and ice cream. 
    • Have a camera on hand to capture the picture of your child with his first birthday cake. 
    • If children will be present at the party, think about their ages. Are they mainly around the age of one, or are they older? If so, a few organized games to serve as entertainment for the kids would be a good idea.   
    • Choosing a theme based on your child’s favorite interest is always a good bet. Although your one-year-old cannot tell you what he wants, have a look around at some of his favorite books or toys and build a theme. 
    • Remember to time the party around your child’s schedule, especially his nap. 
    • One hour is long enough for planned activities for a one-year-old’s party. Even if the party will continue for longer, make time to put your child down for a nap when he shows signs of tiredness.
  9. Have a plan to handle requests for party guests’ siblings to attend. Make sure to know how many extra kids your budget can afford and to have a solid answer when the request comes your way. If you make one exception, you may need to be prepared for more. 
Be prepared to not receive RSVPs. Most people simply forget. As a result, back up your RSVP date by ten days and have a contact list available to call when the RSVP date passes so you can gather your RSVPs and know your numbers.


By Lisa Kothari

In our effort to make the place to go for information and great ideas about planning your child's next birthday party, we've teamed up with Lisa Kothari, one of the true experts in planning kids' parties.

Lisa Kothari

Lisa Kothari, party planning expert and author, has a passion for planning creative and entertaining parties! Drawing from all of her gained knowledge and her brilliant imagination, Lisa has organized her excellent tips and original ideas about throwing a wonderful celebration for any occasion onto her website and in her book: Dear Peppers and Pollywogs...What Parents Want to Know About Planning Their Kids' Parties. Her main party planning belief is that no matter the budget or amount of time a parent has, an incredible party can always be thrown, keeping children cheerful and parents stress-free during their wonderfully planned celebrations! Her passion is helping parents achieve this with minimal time and effort.